I have noticed lately how people are getting increasingly interested in the phenomenon of narcissism. But what is there to say on the matter that has not been said before? It is obvious that narcissists are troublesome and dangerous to their close ones.

The Secret Door to the World of Narcissists

Fragile People

Авторская разработка Юлии Пирумовой

Among this choir, there are yet voices that are not only willing to diagnose and condemn narcissism, but also tell the story behind the psychological drama determining the narcissist’s character and the suffering they are prone to. I will write about narcissism from this point of view.

Probably you not have heard of other narcissists.

In contrast to those who brightly manifest a narcissistic pathology, we are now surrounded by other narcissists. They will not humiliate you or show how great they are and prove to what extent they are better than you. Quite the contrary! Their narcissism is also wounded. But instead of showing off, such narcissists have chosen a different adaptation strategy. The first impression is that these people have absolutely no relation to narcissism. But it is who they are. “Secret” narcissists. People who have exceptionally fragile self-esteem and emptiness for a self-concept.

Yulia Pirumova

They disguise themselves and hide.
They try not to show their inferiority to anyone.
Their constant companion is total dissatisfaction with oneself and low self-esteem.
They are unable to be proud of themselves and devalue all that is good and worthy about them.
They always want to be a better version of themselves, but instantly feel ashamed, inadequate or inferior.
They refuse to do anything to avoid suffering a defeat or facing a failure.
They are afraid of close relationships, but loneliness also scares them.
Their inner world is much more complex than it seems at first glance.

Yulia Pirumova

Gestalt therapist, practicing psychologist, psy blogger and author of such bestselling books as "Fragile People. The Secret Door to the World of Narcissists", "All Roads Lead to Themselves", "Correspondence Psychologist" and "Leave to Grow Up".

By the end of 2024, it entered the top 20 authors of the Bombora publishing house with sales of more than 80 thousand copies. Participant of scientific and practical conferences. Creator of psychotherapeutic games. The author of training projects for psychologists and people interested in psychology.

For 3 years, the book "Fragile People" is included in the list of the top-selling psychological bestsellers in Russian.